There are various warnings or signs of abusive relationship. Getting out of an abusive relationship may be regarded as putting yourself in a sticky situation. Prevention is the best cure. If you spot even one of the following signs in your relationship you need to stand up for yourself immediately. Do not make excuses for your partner’s behavior and never try to defend them by saying that it was just this one time. Remember, you can always cut down a tree, but not feeding it when it was just a seedling is an easier option to get rid of it.

Abuse in a relationship may be physical or mental. Signs of abusive relationship in case of physical violence are prominent and clear in the form of body scars or burns. If your partner has ever hit you in a fit of rage you are a victim of physical abuse. It is not important whether you were hit just once or multiple times. What matters is that you were physically assaulted. Even as much as a threat to hit you, scar you or burn you should not be tolerated. Trying to scare you by driving dangerously fast or hitting walls is also considered as an abuse. An abuser may try to manipulate and intimidate you by threatening to end his life or hurt you and/or your children. One must never succumb to such scourges and learn to face the abuser with fortitude.

A mentally abusive relationship is the one in which your partner plays with your head. The abuser makes you feel insecure about yourself, tells you that you’re always wrong, abuses you verbally in private and public, reads your mail, is always jealous of the people you hang out with and even follows you around everywhere to keep an eye on you. These are all signs of abusive relationship in which the victim is being harassed mentally. Other signs of abusive relationship are blaming you for their problems and seething with rage at the drop of a hat so that you always feel like you’re walking on an eggshell. Also, abusing you after having drunk too much alcohol is not acceptable and should not be discarded as something done without one’s senses.

If you are in the early stages of your relationship and see one of the various signs of abusive relationship mentioned above, walk out without looking back. As for the people who are in a long term relationship and have just realized that they are being abused you should either consult a therapist or be prepared to leave your abusers.

If you are in a relationship where you find yourself constantly doubting your judgment its time you realized that you are in a mentally abusive relationship. Abuse does not need to show on your body as scars to be termed as abuse. It can very well be abuse of the sorts that leaves mental scars and nor physical ones. The thing about mentally abusive relationships is that your partner makes you so vulnerable and dependent on them that instead of standing up against their unrighteous behavior, you begin finding faults with yourself. So, even though you are right, your judgment is so inexplicably impaired in a mentally abusive relationship that you do not even realize that you are right.

One of the first signs of a mentally abusive relationship is that you find yourself at the receiving end of a fight. No matter who started the fight or whose fault it was, the ultimate blame is always on you. Remember, at the end of a fight, if you’re left scratching your head trying to figure out how you ended up getting the blame, you are in a mentally abusive relationship and to make matters worse, you’re not even aware that you are being abuse. You begin to feel that you are being controlled and intimidated by your abuser. You feel the need to get clearance or consent from your partner on every miniscule matter, be it shopping, catching a movie or even meeting a friend. You find your partner constantly twisting facts and having sudden fits of amnesia. The abuser may conveniently forget things to suit his argument. All these are signs of a mentally abusive relationship.

Sometimes, you may find that your frustration due to the troubled relationship with your partner spills over your other relationships. You remain irritated with everybody else. It is also normal to be craven round the clock when you are in a mentally abusive relationship. The victim feels vulnerable and afraid to confront their abuser. Not just this, the victim may often feel like they are living on a time bomb ready to explode any second.

Prevention of mentally abusive relationship is the best cure. Never let your partner dominate the relationship or put you down by constantly telling you that you’re worthless. Stand up for yourself the very first time you sense verbal or mental abuse. If you already are in a mentally abusive relationship wake up before it is too late and your sanity is long gone.

Marriage counseling or therapy is a process meant to reconcile disparities between the two partners involved by means of discussions with a therapist. Marriage counseling may prove to be very affective and helpful if taken at an appropriate time.

A few basic questions about marriage counseling maybe:

Who needs marriage counseling?

The answer to this question is that any troubled couple who believe that their marriage is in of a third party to be saved may take up marriage counseling. Constant arguments which are often ugly and loud, individuals seething with rage at each other at the drop of a hat, lack of communication, dishonesty, resentments and blaming your partner for your failures are some signs of a troubled marriage and may require marriage counseling.

When or at what point should one take marriage counseling?

This is a very important question because marriage counseling is a process which may work only if taken at the right time and the right time is the moment immediately after having realized that your marriage is in trouble.

If either of the partners believes that their marriage is going through turbulences, it is probably time for marriage counseling. Waiting for too long a time thinking that things may change themselves with time is calling for trouble. Saving a marriage is easiest if marriage counseling is taken up at early stages.

What type of couples benefit from marriage counseling?

Mostly young couples who have just begun their lives together have a very high rate of beneficial marriage counseling. This is so because young couples are still like wet clay, they have not yet been molded into stubborn human beings. Middle aged and older couples benefit from marriage counseling as well, however not as much as young couples do as with age a person tends to become stubborn does not like being told what to do or how to behave with his/her spouse. Non-sexist couples and those open to discussions and change also benefit from marriage counseling.

Who does not benefit from marriage counseling?

As mentioned earlier, middle aged couples tend to be way more stubborn and opposed to change than young couples. This makes it all the more difficult for the counselor to make them agree with each other or even encourage discussions as they are unwilling to one, admit to their mistakes and two, change themselves in order to save the marriage. Couples who wait too long for marriage counseling may have missed out on their chance of making the marriage work. Having made up your mind for separation is also another reason for marriage counseling not working.

Sharing your life with someone, getting married and having your very own “Happily Ever After” may be a deceptively pleasing but it is surely specious and happens only in fairytales. Marital problems are common to all marriages and may be both frustrating and vexing at the same time. Some common marital problems and ways to cope up with them are mentioned below:

• Communication Gap

Communication gap or misunderstanding is one of the most plebian marital problems that couples come across. This may be due to either lack of time or your unwillingness to hear out your partner with as much zeal and ardor as you would expect from them when you have something to share. If such is the case, the best way to sort things out is by assigning some “us time” where you and your partner sit down over a drink and share your feelings.

• Loud & Abusive Background

Sometimes, if people have grown up in an abusive and violent environment, it tends to reflect on their relationships later on in life.

A person who has seen his parents yell and shout at each other will always retort to the same in case of an argument with his/her spouse leading to marital problems. This onerous baggage being carried by an individual from youth is a result of many marital problems and can be treated only through therapy.

• Unfulfilled Expectations

When you enter into a nuptial with a plethora of expectations and are disappointed later on as a result of your expectations being unfulfilled, marital problems begin to creep in. mostly these expectations cannot be even put into words. What is worse is that the only way to deal with these insidious expectations is to fulfill them yourself. It is not the responsibility of your spouse to cater to your preconceived expectations.

• Dishonesty & Infidelity

This is the number one evil when it comes to marital problems. Infidelity is more a result of a breaking marriage than its cause. This is no way justifies, rationalizes or vindicates cheating on your spouse. This only points out that a well satiated person who is content in his marriage may never look outside to fill himself up. Dealing with this may vary from person to person. Marriage counseling and therapy is an option for some while others may opt to end the marriage.

• Resentments

Resentments may not be an obvious or evident marital problem but it is surely a slow poison and the only way to address them is through communication.

That is exactly what insecurity in relationships may do to a person. You may be a perfectly normal and loving partner except that, for reasons unknown to you and to others, you turn into an obsessive and compulsively insecure person who needs to be reassured of their partner’s loyalty towards them time and again. If you start doubting your partner at the drop of a hat, you my friend are suffering from insecurity in relationships.

The thing about insecurity in relationships is that most people are compulsively insecure. They feel like it is their birth right to keep an eye on their partner. They may follow you wherever you go just to keep a check on you. If your partner is reading your mails, calling you every now and then to know where you are and getting jealous of your friends of the opposite sex, he/she is certainly insecure and may doubt commitment towards them.

Insecurity in relationships may often lead to regular fights and eventually the partners may decide to part ways. However, if your partner is insecure, you need to understand that it may be due to their past relationships which have resulted in them building an impenetrable wall wherein they believe that nobody can be trusted.

If a person has been cheated upon in the past or has one or both his parents cheat on each other resulting in a broken marriage, he/she begins to believe that the same will transpire in every relationship. If such is the case, parting ways is not really the smart thing to do for either partner. For someone whose partner is insecure, you need to access the situation and see for yourself if your partner is loving and caring, apart from the insecurity which can be dealt with maturely without having to give up on the relationship. If you decide to give your relationship another chance, patience is the one trait which will help you go a long way. You will need to reassure your partner of your loyalty time and again but eventually he/she will begin trusting you. This may take years together, but it will be worth all the trouble at the end. Insecurity in relationships can be addressed only through loving and understanding your partner’s issues without taking to heart whatever they say or do.

Sometimes, insecurity in relationships is a reflection of your partner’s own guilt. If you partner is cheating on you, he/she might believe that so are you. In this case you are left with no option except parting ways.

According to a recent survey, one out of every three women in the world has been involved in or is still involved in an abusive relationship. However I beg to differ on this matter because any survey or study carried out only takes into account physical abuse and not mental abuse. Even though a physically abusive relationship may show more prominently in the form of scars or burns and bruises, it is the mentally abusive relationship which I believe leaves a bigger mark on the victim’s general well being. I say so because scars on the body may disappear soon enough, but the ones ceded on the mind take a while to vanish.

Physically abusive relationships i.e. domestic violence is the single biggest scourge for women in the world today. Women are safer in a dark alley or an abandoned street but they are still not safe in their own homes. Domestic violence kills more women in the world than heart attacks, cancer and car accidents combined together.

A mentally abusive relationship is tougher to spot and almost impossible to draw statistics from because in most cases women themselves do not realize that they are being abused.

The abuser has them thinking that they are always wrong so much so that the victim begins to question her own sanity. If you are always told that you are wrong, at some point you begin to believe it yourself. Verbally abusing your partner and calling them names in private or public is not acceptable whether done once or several times.

The one big question people always ask is why women can not gather enough fortitude to walk out of an abusive relationship. There may be many possible explanations for this. The first and the most practical reason, even though it may not seem rational, is that the victim in an abusive relationship may be so monetarily dependent on the abuser that she may fear not being able to provide her children and herself. Some mothers may decide not to walk out of an abusive relationship because they believe that children grow into better human beings if in an intact home than a divorced one. However these women fail to realize that children are better off with a single mother than with an abusive father. Some women bear abuse to avoid social stigma and taboo associated with a broken marriage. Also, a lot of women remain in denial of being in an abusive relationship and decide to either forgive or ignore their abuser’s ill treatment as a fit of rage.

Most of you would have made plans for this wonderful day.
What to present your loved one, the place where you want to meet him/her, that special thing to do which makes the day a bit extra romantic than other days when you are with the same person?

The reason why this day is celebrated?

Most people don’t quite know why this day is celebrated, but it does make a difference to the life of many lovers. This becomes an important day for the love life of several lovers. Love is what is all on their minds all day, and they think of ways to please their beloved. Jewelry business is one the business which relishes far too much business around this day. Not to forget the businesses related to flowers, greeting cards or candles. Many other types of gifts are also exchanged by the lovers on this day.

The People Who Do Not Have a Loved One?

This day might be one of the most important days for those who are in a love relationship. But what is it about the others that make them celebrate this day? Take a look on today’s world. You will lose your count but not the number of antisocial activities taking place in the world. Wars, terrorism, and many other types of destructions, mostly man made are taking place in this place. Only yesterday, a city in India, Pune was hit by yet another terror attack. This type of environment has changed and disturbed the human mind forever. Do you agree? No one can be optimistic about the future of this world. Literally, NOBODY. It is only these types of days, festivals etc. which impact the human mind and make them feel good about the world. One must really feel that these types of days are very important in today’s life. Even those who don not have a beloved feel like being in good mood on this day. One should feel that you do not necessarily need a beloved to celebrate this day. It can be your family, your friends or any other loved one. You just need to show your love and your feelings to them. This is what ultimately matters. You can even celebrate this day by having a chat with an old friend who might have gone to the back of your minds because of the day to day routine of yours. This will ultimately make you feel good. Just take a step towards making it a day to make people love each other.

In the end a very happy valentine’s day, Celebrate it with your loved ones’ be it your beloved, your family, your friends or anyone else.

Relationships – the thing on which our lives depend. Mostly one relationship affects a number of lives. So, it’s important for us to maintain a steady relationship. Here are some tips to do that:

• You have to make your mind to stay in it and not just as a pastime.

The person should make a decision at the very beginning whether he/she wants to stay in it or not. This does not mean that the person has to think that he/she will not leave the person till death or something. But just that there should be an understanding as to the type of intentions he has. First of all, if one feels that he/she wants to enter into a relationship with the other person, he/she should ask the other one about their feelings by asking a question in a typical manner like I see us growing old together. Do you feel the same? There is nothing easy when one is dealing with relationships. Love is a risk, and you have to be willing to show it when you love one.

• The couples that like to adjust their choices according to each other stay together.

Men and women have different tastes and preferences in plays and different types of entertainment. This shouldn’t be a barrier if it comes to choice of activities to be done together. Boys like the recreational companionship, while girls like sharing the intimate details with there partners. One can choose from activities like camping together or going to a picnic together, among others. Both these activities give an opportunity of both the guy and the girl following each other’s interest along with maintaining the relationship.

• There are more ways of making love than one.

As both the partners spend time together, they should be thoughtful about how the partner expresses his/her love towards the other one.  If one makes the other feel special, then there are chances that the other one will also get the same gesture. Any expression of love can come under this. Personality quizzes, language of love assessment, among others are tools which can be used in order to find both of yours tendencies.  There shouldn’t be any shame in using this type of tools and also shouldn’t have any bearing to both the partners’ ability in evaluating the above. The knowledge procured from these helps in setting up stability on an emotional level and helps in making a loving environment.

Family is very imperative part of our daily life. It helps us in improving our overall personality. It also helps us in shaping our life. It teaches us the value of love, care, affection, self-confidence and truthfulness and provides us tools & suggestions which are essential to get success in life.

Family is a place where you can be yourself. It is a place where you’re admitted for what you are, thus there are no terms and conditions. This is where you’re completely tension free & everyone is there to help you. Family supports you when you are surrounded by troubles. It helps you endure through tough times & bring joy and pleasure into life.

Decency is extremely important in the communication of everyday life. It helps us make strong bond with others & make us come across as a very intelligent, likable and gentle person. Everyone loves to be in a group of such person. Family helps bring politeness into our life which is essential to lead a happy life.

One of the most imperative aims of our life is to put up a successful and highly rewarding profession. Our families help us in creating a strong future. It gives us important suggestion about different career potential. It not only guides us in selecting the best but also financially helps us to cover the expenditures related to education and other daily needs. Thus it helps us in building a good future.

The importance of family is undoubtedly realized when one went to vacation or celebrate an occasion without family members. It will be extremely hard to holiday or to celebrate an occasion without being surrounded by family members. At that time possibly we realize that how important they are to us. At that time, we came to know about the significance of our families.

Today, most people do not realize the importance of family. They choose to spend most of their time with their friends. But when they’re surrounded by problems, it was their family that helped them in thrashing down their problems. At the time, when even our best friends snub to help us, it was our family that came to help us. So it is very important for each & every individual to give significance to their families above anything else & enjoy spending time with family members, please note that Quality time not Quantity time.

Going through the title of this article you must be thinking that this is not for you as you and your spouse live together in the same house. But wait. Don’t you think working hard for two pay checks is keeping you away from your better half? If this is so, you must read this article to make your relationship successful even with distances between you. And yes, if your spouse is working somewhere far away from you, then here are some tips that will help you making the best use of the time you spend together.

DO’s to keep up the essence of your relationship:

# Maintain effective communication: Telephone is the first thing you think about when it comes to communication. But apart from this, there are other means also like emails, instant messenger, conventional mails and VOIP phone. Explore each of them to enhance your communication experience.

# Develop a hobby which both of you can share: Having a common hobby, will give you two, something to discuss.

# Surprise your partner: Surprises keep the spice in your relationship how far you may be from your partner. Unexpected cards, gifts and letters will surely make your partner appreciate and love your efforts.

# Capture everything interesting happening to you and share: Sharing videos, audio recordings and photos with your partner will keep him informed of what is happening around you despite of the physical distance.

DON’Ts to avoid conflicts in the relationship:

# Try for a temporary replacement: Don’t ever try to settle for a temporary replacement when your partner is not around. This way you will be breaking the mutual trust and agreement that you make.

# Suspecting your spouse: There should be no room for suspicion in your relationship. Whole-hearted trust on your partner is the only thing that can tide away any kind of distance between you and your love.

# Take the relationship lightly: Always acknowledge the fact that the absence of your partner does not give you the license to manipulate the relationship. Your partner has full right to be treated fairly and decide for the well being of your relationship.

# Giving way to the fact that long distance relationships don’t work: Never think about doing this mistake. Always remember, it’s not the physical distance that matter in a relationship. What make a relationship successful are your trust, love and the bond that holds you two together. If you will succumb to these negative comments, you are surely going to destroy your relationship.