Breaking off in a relationship is a trying time for most people even if you are one of those who can curb your feelings. Hence one wonders if it is possible continue being friends when you stop being lovers without either one or both reacting negatively to the break up. The fact is that it is possible to put the passion behind you and continue to be friends in real relationships.

One such aspect is the reason that the two of you came together to start with. Behind the pain lurks that special something that attracted you to each other. It is this one thing that maintains a link to enable the two of you to still be friends. This is an even greater possibility if the two of you were in strong relationships as lovers.

The hurt and the pain subside with the passing of the initial shock. The fond memories along with the fun and healing serve as a reminder of the good times and that everything was not bad, but rather, there were good times too.

Time spent apart can often lead one to the realization of what you had and lost and serve to bring the two of you back together.

Once the initial period of separation passes, it could begin with a simple phone call on the part of one of you, inviting the other to meet sometime for a simple chat. Should the offer be acceptable to the other, the friendship has a chance of survival. If not acceptable, you could either allow the other person some more time to themselves for the healing process and if that doesn’t work it would perhaps be wise to accept the inevitable.

You would not, after all, want to aggravate the pain of the other person. Handled like two adults the separation can be handled properly. If the parting has not been handled maturely, chances are the friendship could also be lost.

So it is obvious that the hype and anger and the accompanying drama have no place in real life as against the histrionics one sees in the movies. The real emotions and real feelings of a committed relationship sometimes cause the healing to take longer and this should always be borne in mind while trying to salvage the friendship from the relationship.

With a little luck things should work out and you could once again share the fun and laughter as friends instead of as lovers.