Mentally Abusive Relationship – Signs & Prevention
If you are in a relationship where you find yourself constantly doubting your judgment its time you realized that you are in a mentally abusive relationship. Abuse does 
not need to show on your body as scars to be termed as abuse. It can very well be abuse of the sorts that leaves mental scars and nor physical ones. The thing about mentally abusive relationships is that your partner makes you so vulnerable and dependent on them that instead of standing up against their unrighteous behavior, you begin finding faults with yourself. So, even though you are right, your judgment is so inexplicably impaired in a mentally abusive relationship that you do not even realize that you are right.
One of the first signs of a mentally abusive relationship is that you find yourself at the receiving end of a fight. No matter who started the fight or whose fault it was, the ultimate blame is always on you. Remember, at the end of a fight, if you’re left scratching your head trying to figure out how you ended up getting the blame, you are in a mentally abusive relationship and to make matters worse, you’re not even aware that you are being abuse. You begin to feel that you are being controlled and intimidated by your abuser. You feel the need to get clearance or consent from your partner on every miniscule matter, be it shopping, catching a movie or even meeting a friend. You find your partner constantly twisting facts and having sudden fits of amnesia. The abuser may conveniently forget things to suit his argument. All these are signs of a mentally abusive relationship.
Sometimes, you may find that your frustration due to the troubled relationship with your partner spills over your other relationships. You remain irritated with everybody else. It is also normal to be craven round the clock when you are in a mentally abusive relationship. The victim feels vulnerable and afraid to confront their abuser. Not just this, the victim may often feel like they are living on a time bomb ready to explode any second.
Prevention of mentally abusive relationship is the best cure. Never let your partner dominate the relationship or put you down by constantly telling you that you’re worthless. Stand up for yourself the very first time you sense verbal or mental abuse. If you already are in a mentally abusive relationship wake up before it is too late and your sanity is long gone.
6 Comments on “Mentally Abusive Relationship – Signs & Prevention”
So true iv been stuck in a mental and physically abusive behaviour for some years he hits me and says he was restraining me incase hit him he kicks me and says he pushed me with foot he shouts at me and says it was an accidental bad tone my friends come and see me because they want to be around him, and to top it off he calls me a bad mum when I stick up for my childrenand tries to convince me how bad am, when know not he used to just grab me no he throws squeezes and slaps and today iv made up my miind to leave and he will not reel me back in…to anybody reading this wondering if u r being abused,you more than liikely are why else would you be looking for this type of material get away before hings esculate x,
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Ohh Nat, feeling really bad for you. One has to be strong from inside to face off such situation.
As you wrote that half of your message diappeared, but after reading first half I would like to say that you are very brave & just pray to god help you out to move ahead in your life.
we went for a meal last night and our son rang up to say he hadnt taken his key out so couldent get in the house.he was near our daughters so he could go there my husband was effing and jeffing at me in the resturaunt saying i shoul have check before he went out ,but we had family round and he just went out quickly and i said have u got your phone with u ,i was blamed and was emmbarresed as we go to the res a lot ,people could hear him ranting at me
Hi Cath,
First of all sorry for replying late. It feels really bad looking at the behavior of your husband. There are many couples who are constantly fighting with each other on such small issues & that is really bad for their own future relationship. As per my observation what I have understood is that your husband do loves you; there should be no doubt over that. Its just that he having a habit of nudging out for small issues y he whenever things are not going as per his wish. In order to put his point forward or get the things done the wants he gets angry & loses control over himself in the public also. In life many problems can be solve with the help of one weapon i.e Love. I am not saying that you don’t love him; its just that you need to talk to him & understand his point of view. Analyze it keep your view also & do make him understand. Please avoid ending up in any sort of argument.
Looking forward towards an update from your side….
As I read the description above of a mental abusive relationship, all I could think of was omg thats me all the way. So many things and stuff that has gone on in my relationship with my man and I he always comes to the same thing is that Im the in the wrong and its my fault that he’s not moving foward in his life like Im holding him back. But he says that he loves me and couldnt live without me. He says that I need to grow up and be a woman (I know I am and I have grown alot since I met him 4 years ago) but Im always the bad one and the stupid thing about that all is that I know that I havent dont anything wrong. He makes me feel low all the time. He says that I havent learned anything from him(like Im supposed to be like him?) I am me and I dont want to loose who I am. He goes on and on about one thing yelling and telling me I cant do anything right for hours. I finally have to walk away and that makes him even worse. If im upset and crying he always says that I doesnt care and I need to grow up. When he goes on and on about everything that Im doing wrong, and he expects me to say something back, I dont know what to say, Im scared. Scared if I say anything he will snap even worse and that has happend alot. He calls my son and I trash and rats. He doesnt even like my father and brother because they are bad for intrupting people when they talk(I know they dont mean to)and he says that Im like them and that makes him angry. I get so nurvus around him I start screwing up my words and thing that I am doing and that makes him so angry. I cant wait to go to work(which he put me through college for and he holds that against me aswell) becuase I can get away from him making me feel bad about myself all the time. I could go on and on, and stupid me I love him to death. I almost hate myself for loving him and staying with him. grrrrr….